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Keeping all the drama f-locked and non drama open to the public, just to keep everyone and their brother on the internet stumbling on my family drama. I feel sorry for anyone who has to deal with anythings similar.
The update:
My current belief is that my sister made friends on the internet (don't ask how my family views this - I keep telling them that you have to look out for the crazies on the internet, but in this case, my sister is the crazy) and told one of her tales. She's good at telling stories to get others who don't know her well to believe that my mother/her husband are just horrible to her and she needs to escape their tyranny. They took it to the next step and most likely suggested that her husband was emotionally abusive based on evidence my sister presented (which is usually .10 of the story and doesn't include anything she's done - let's just say, my sister actually snowed a psychologist for 10 sessions...until the psychologist met my parents; there's a major difference between borderline personality disorder and ADD). This led to my sister having someone feeding her delusion and leaving her husband with the cryptic note that "you'll never hurt me or Maddie (the dog) again". (They pop the dog's butt for tearing things up. Both of them. Just like he yells when angry...she does too. They need counseling anyway, but add in my sister's issues and...yeah.)
The kicker came yesterday when my mother revealed that, in an email (my sister is at least keeping in contact with mom that way), my sister said "don't worry, but I've taken out a life insurance policy, and Heather's the beneficiary." It's important to note, as my mother did, that, according to law, you can't make a claim when you're the person that killed the policyholder. Not to say that I would kill her, it's just far more likely that I would instead of my BIL.
I keep yelling for involuntary committal. My parents are being ishy about it (or at least mom is). Poor dad only got into town from working in Oregon for 3 weeks on Sat. night, so he's jumped in feet first. My BIL was able to hack into her Yahoo account, so we have some information on where she is. We've also pretty much found out for sure that she's cheated on her husband. Whee! The fun! (Reason number 187 to never get involved with a married woman: you don't want to be on the receiving end if he finds your phone number. *snicker* I actually don't feel sorry for the guy. My BIL blames my sister the most for her behavior with the other guy, but when a man gets involved with a woman he knows is married, he has to accept that husbands usually find out in some way.)
Me, I'm being so damn logical yesterday and today that I'm borderline Vulcan. I need the ears.
ETA: And in the past five minutes I found out that my sister's claim is that the reason she didn't tell us about the abuse is because she knew we wouldn't believe her. *eyeroll* While I know from school and all other information that abuse can be hidden to the extent that family members don't know about it, the facts of Katie are just inescapable.
On the plus side (because I'm trying to find one), my mother did go by the police department to consult with them. Unfortunately she asked the wrong questions. She also didn't utilize the connections I have to speak to someone who at least would have a friendly ear (it helps when they know at least one person in the family but aren't familiar with the situation...you get impartiality without impersonality).
The update:
My current belief is that my sister made friends on the internet (don't ask how my family views this - I keep telling them that you have to look out for the crazies on the internet, but in this case, my sister is the crazy) and told one of her tales. She's good at telling stories to get others who don't know her well to believe that my mother/her husband are just horrible to her and she needs to escape their tyranny. They took it to the next step and most likely suggested that her husband was emotionally abusive based on evidence my sister presented (which is usually .10 of the story and doesn't include anything she's done - let's just say, my sister actually snowed a psychologist for 10 sessions...until the psychologist met my parents; there's a major difference between borderline personality disorder and ADD). This led to my sister having someone feeding her delusion and leaving her husband with the cryptic note that "you'll never hurt me or Maddie (the dog) again". (They pop the dog's butt for tearing things up. Both of them. Just like he yells when angry...she does too. They need counseling anyway, but add in my sister's issues and...yeah.)
The kicker came yesterday when my mother revealed that, in an email (my sister is at least keeping in contact with mom that way), my sister said "don't worry, but I've taken out a life insurance policy, and Heather's the beneficiary." It's important to note, as my mother did, that, according to law, you can't make a claim when you're the person that killed the policyholder. Not to say that I would kill her, it's just far more likely that I would instead of my BIL.
I keep yelling for involuntary committal. My parents are being ishy about it (or at least mom is). Poor dad only got into town from working in Oregon for 3 weeks on Sat. night, so he's jumped in feet first. My BIL was able to hack into her Yahoo account, so we have some information on where she is. We've also pretty much found out for sure that she's cheated on her husband. Whee! The fun! (Reason number 187 to never get involved with a married woman: you don't want to be on the receiving end if he finds your phone number. *snicker* I actually don't feel sorry for the guy. My BIL blames my sister the most for her behavior with the other guy, but when a man gets involved with a woman he knows is married, he has to accept that husbands usually find out in some way.)
Me, I'm being so damn logical yesterday and today that I'm borderline Vulcan. I need the ears.
ETA: And in the past five minutes I found out that my sister's claim is that the reason she didn't tell us about the abuse is because she knew we wouldn't believe her. *eyeroll* While I know from school and all other information that abuse can be hidden to the extent that family members don't know about it, the facts of Katie are just inescapable.
On the plus side (because I'm trying to find one), my mother did go by the police department to consult with them. Unfortunately she asked the wrong questions. She also didn't utilize the connections I have to speak to someone who at least would have a friendly ear (it helps when they know at least one person in the family but aren't familiar with the situation...you get impartiality without impersonality).
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