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The other day while listening to the radio, something struck me about one of the songs playing. Lyrically, most songs sound alike to me. What comprises the song, the story it's telling, is what will most likely make me love a song, as opposed to merely liking it because the melody/singer have a pleasing sound.
But the exact nature of what constitutes a truly touching love song (in my book) has to do with a *specific* message and a specific kind of language. And in a way, I think this might explain why I like country music - traditionally (although not so much lately) it is a spare music form, both lyrically, vocally and musically. That spare quality appeals to me on an emotional scale.
Overall, the nature of the song that will touch my heart and make me remember it - a song that will mean something to me - is a song that talks about real, everyday emotions.
Some examples (click on the title for the lyrics):
This Everyday Love by Rascal Flatts
Just Another Day In Paradise by Phil Vassar
My Best Friend by Tim McGraw
Grown Men Don't Cry by Tim McGraw
The Search Is Over by Survivor
All of those songs constitute great love songs to me because of the sentiment and message involved (although I would say that Grown Men Don't Cry is a different kind of love song). They're simple. They're about what's right in front of you, about everyday life. They're about more than just passion - they're about friendship and companionship.
And that leads into my philosophy on love. My philosophy on love is very much like those songs. I'm a romantic. I'm sentimental about certain things. But I also have a certain amount of pragmatism. As a woman, there are certain things a guy might say to me that will get to me. If it's about valuing me as a friend as much as or more than valuing me as a lover, I'm hooked. Saying the words "best friend" have me hook, line and sinker.
But let me tell you, get schmoopy, call me "lover" (as in "hello, lover") or any other pet name (with the exception of "baby" - I kind of like that one), and I'm liable to dump the guy. I don't do that kind of sentimental. I don't do over the top romantic (unless it's a wedding proposal, at which time I expect to be proposed to in a very grand, over the top, public spectacle kind of fashion - well, I guess that goes along with my non-schmoopy self, cause I don't want intimate and sweet and romantic, I want showy). If a guy thinks he's going to be so sweet that I'll be in tears, it won't work. I'll just end up uncomfortable.
To me, love is about companionship and being together and the emotional support from day to day. Not some Grand Passion that involves people who are sated and basking in afterglow. I don't want Grand Passion. I want something that will last once the initial fire has burned down. I guess you could say that my philosophy on love is about being in for the long haul.
Consequently, that's why any guy I ever say "I love you" to can be certain that I mean it. That's something I've never said to a guy. Ever. Family and friends get told that I love them, but as far as a guy I'm dating...I've never said it. (I've even had to do the embarrassing "Well, I like you a lot too.")
But the exact nature of what constitutes a truly touching love song (in my book) has to do with a *specific* message and a specific kind of language. And in a way, I think this might explain why I like country music - traditionally (although not so much lately) it is a spare music form, both lyrically, vocally and musically. That spare quality appeals to me on an emotional scale.
Overall, the nature of the song that will touch my heart and make me remember it - a song that will mean something to me - is a song that talks about real, everyday emotions.
Some examples (click on the title for the lyrics):
This Everyday Love by Rascal Flatts
Just Another Day In Paradise by Phil Vassar
My Best Friend by Tim McGraw
Grown Men Don't Cry by Tim McGraw
The Search Is Over by Survivor
All of those songs constitute great love songs to me because of the sentiment and message involved (although I would say that Grown Men Don't Cry is a different kind of love song). They're simple. They're about what's right in front of you, about everyday life. They're about more than just passion - they're about friendship and companionship.
And that leads into my philosophy on love. My philosophy on love is very much like those songs. I'm a romantic. I'm sentimental about certain things. But I also have a certain amount of pragmatism. As a woman, there are certain things a guy might say to me that will get to me. If it's about valuing me as a friend as much as or more than valuing me as a lover, I'm hooked. Saying the words "best friend" have me hook, line and sinker.
But let me tell you, get schmoopy, call me "lover" (as in "hello, lover") or any other pet name (with the exception of "baby" - I kind of like that one), and I'm liable to dump the guy. I don't do that kind of sentimental. I don't do over the top romantic (unless it's a wedding proposal, at which time I expect to be proposed to in a very grand, over the top, public spectacle kind of fashion - well, I guess that goes along with my non-schmoopy self, cause I don't want intimate and sweet and romantic, I want showy). If a guy thinks he's going to be so sweet that I'll be in tears, it won't work. I'll just end up uncomfortable.
To me, love is about companionship and being together and the emotional support from day to day. Not some Grand Passion that involves people who are sated and basking in afterglow. I don't want Grand Passion. I want something that will last once the initial fire has burned down. I guess you could say that my philosophy on love is about being in for the long haul.
Consequently, that's why any guy I ever say "I love you" to can be certain that I mean it. That's something I've never said to a guy. Ever. Family and friends get told that I love them, but as far as a guy I'm dating...I've never said it. (I've even had to do the embarrassing "Well, I like you a lot too.")
Everyone, please make note of this.
Please make note of all of the information contained therein. The most important parts: that I am a Genius, and that apparently I'll sleep with anybody, anytime.
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Please make note of all of the information contained therein. The most important parts: that I am a Genius, and that apparently I'll sleep with anybody, anytime.
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